With Valentine’s Day a little less than a month away, have you started to make plans? Yes, I know. You don’t have a date, yet! Or perhaps you’re a bit more in my shoes and you acknowledge that you are 99% sure you WON’T have a date come February 14th.
But if I won’t be spending the day being romanced, does that mean I can’t enjoy it? I can count on one hand the number of times over the years I spent Valentine’s Day with someone I was dating. Most years, I spent the day either alone or with friends. I can tell you from my own experience that the days I spent it alone, trying to pretend it didn’t matter or acting as though it was like any other day, didn’t work too well. The years I spent acknowledging it and making plans with family or friends were the Valentine’s Days that I enjoyed the most (sometime more so than some of the dates I had).
I create special moments for a lot of people. Last month alone, I threw a baby shower for a co-worker, had a special birthday luncheon for my goddaughter and created a memorable New Year’s Eve for me and a friend.
It’s nice when someone creates special moments for us. It’s especially nice when those moments are made by a romantic partner, on Valentine’s Day. But life is often what we make of it! So if a wonderful husband isn’t out there making plans for me on February 14th, maybe that’s not the end of the story. As so many self-help books encourage single women to do, perhaps I could learn to “love myself, and what better day to demonstrate that than on Valentine’s Day. Also, while we’re loving ourselves, why not extend that love to a few other unsuspecting people? It can make the occasion so much richer. Here are a few suggestions on making that day special for you and for others: Most of them require that you plan ahead, so don’t delay.
- Boldly remind yourself it’s a day of love by wearing red to work.
- During your lunch hour, read some love poetry
- Send a Valentine’s Day card to a friend
- Send a box of chocolate to a girl at least half your age
- Give a single rose to a woman twice your age. If you don’t know anyone personally, drop it off at your local senior center and ask them to give it to someone.
- Invite a friend (or two) over for dinner and a movie (or go out for both).
- Write a letter to your future husband